Why do a First Look: A Wedding Planner’s Guide to Designing the Perfect Day
Before you decide whether or not to include a first look on your wedding day, it’s important to understand what it entails and how it can impact your timeline, your guests, and your overall wedding experience! Now, first things first…
What is a first look?
A first look is a planned, private encounter shared by the wedding couple before the ceremony, often accompanied by a photographer. This modern twist is growing in popularity and taking the formerly strict tradition, where couples wouldn’t see each other until the walk down the aisle or speak until at the altar, by storm. Unlike the traditional approach, a first look allows the couple to share a more intimate, less formal moment together and provides a chance to connect and take in the significance of the day ahead.
Why wedding planners recommend a first look
Aside from emotional preference, wedding planners often recommend doing a first look for two main reasons:
1. It provides more time for wedding photos before the ceremony
When including a first look, you can get many, if not all, of the key photos — like portraits, wedding party shots, and even family photos — out of the way early. This means less rushing after the ceremony and more time to relax and enjoy your day. Your photographer can also make the most of natural light and take advantage of creative photo opportunities without being limited by time.
2. It leaves more time to spend with guests after the ceremony
One of the biggest advantages of a first look is that it frees up your post-ceremony schedule. With portraits out of the way instead of immediately rushing off for photos, you can join your guests during cocktail hour! This allows you to fully immerse yourself in the celebration and enjoy spending time with friends and family, rather than being pulled away for a photoshoot during what should be one of the most relaxed parts of the day.
How to know if a first look is right for you
Deciding whether or not to stray from tradition and include a first look can be tricky, especially knowing how it can alter your wedding day. Here are a few indicators that a first look might be right for you!
1. You and your partner value private, emotional moments
If you and your partner value quiet, intimate moments together, a first look could be the perfect way to start your wedding day. Seeing each other before the ceremony allows you to share a special, uninterrupted exchange. It’s a chance to embrace, laugh, cry, or just take in the joy of the moment without an audience. Some couples even share vows, words or love or handwritten letters. If the idea of having that quiet connection with your partner appeals to you, a first look could be a meaningful addition to your day.
2. You don’t want to be nervous on your wedding day
Weddings can be nerve-wracking, especially leading up to the ceremony. Many couples find that seeing their partner before the ceremony helps ease the pre-ceremony jitters. Knowing you’ve already shared a special moment together can give you a sense of calm and confidence, whether you’re walking down the aisle or waiting at the end of it. If you’re someone who feels nervous about all eyes being on you or would like reassurance from your partner, a first look can help take off some of the pressure!
3. You know you’ll cry at the altar
If you’re worried about messing up your makeup before your wedding portraits, a first look is a great way to circumvent this issue entirely!
In conclusion…
All in all, there are LOTS of good reasons to do a first look on your wedding day – from saving your mascara to having more time to celebrate. Whether you include one in the design of your day or not, this wedding planner wishes you love, laughter & happily ever after!